In Quran, the authority of the husband is very extensive over his wife.A wife is subject to be punished by her husband either by beating or abstaining from sexual relations from her. which isThe forth sura of Quran called “Al –Nisa “ which means “Women”(one of the longer suras) and in verse 34
describes the matter above as this:
“…As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill conduct, admonish them, refuse to share their beds, beat them…”
In Quran in sura Al-Imran 3:36 pictures Mary’s mother of being disappointed to give birth to a “female”.
“Lord, I have given birth to her a female- (And God “Allah” knew very well what she had given birth to; the male is not as the female)”- And in the same chapter verse 14 considers females as possessions:
“…Fair in the eyes of men is the love of things they covet: Women and sons; heaped-up hoards of gold and silver; horses…”
“…And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have a degree over them…”
In inheritance, a woman’s share is half of the man. Sura4: 11
“To the male a portion equal to hat of two females…”
In witnessing, the witness of two women equals the witness of one man.
“And get two witnesses out of your own men, and if there are not two men, then a man and two women such as ye choose, for witness…”
In several Hadith (sayings of Mohammad), women are reduced to the level of animals:
Woman is a vile beast
Nothing but evil
A source of mischief
Some women’s duties to their husbands:
· Should stay away from standing on the balcony
· Should hide herself when welcoming men at door
· Should not go out after putting on perfume
· Should put on long dresses and not try to be like unbelieving women
· Should not shake hands with men or mix with them
· Should not walk in the middle of the road
· Should not talk with a loud voice
But instead women have to do all these following:
· Should speak softly
· Should walk by the side of the road
· Should be careful of standing by the door to welcome guests
· Should not go out of her house constantly
· Should not ever lower her veil out of her house under any circumstances whatsoever
· Should be careful of how she dresses while standing in the balcony
· Should not traveling without a guardian relative and should not shaking hands with strangers since these actions considered abominations and pitfalls
· Frequently should ask God with an inaudible voice for His pardon for your guilt, and your health
· Should avoid turning around and always look down
Here some of the justification for polygamy in Islam
· Polygamy is a favor to women since marriage and motherhood are a blessings to women
· Polygamy protects women’s honor, purity in the family and the unity in the society since it keeps women from sinful and evil relationships such as mistress and girlfriend
· If a man can treat his wives justly, he can married to four of them, and has many concubines as he want
· Some Muslims’ men stay with one wife due to economical obstacle
· Some moderates Muslims’ men consider marring the second wife as a dishonor act to the family of the first wife
· According to some Muslims scholar, before Islam, polygamy was a
disorder institution, but Islam made it a means of excellence life
· If the wife is infertile and the husband has his natural desires to have children, here how he can approach this matter:
1. Divorce her and marry another one
2. Marry another woman but still keep the first wife, at least this keep the first wife busy with arriving of children from the second wife
· In Islam a husband can reunite with his wife after divorcing her under this condition:
When a husband pronounced his wife divorce three times “thrice divorced” and wants to remarry her, he cannot do it lawfully until he pays another man “Al Mohalil”(which means the legalizer) who marries this thrice divorced woman and (had sexual intercourse or consummating the marriage with her) and then dismisses her so that she may lawfully marry her former husband.
In Quran sura al-Baqara 2:230 says,”…So if a husband divorced his wife he cannot after that remarry her until after she has married another husband, and he has divorced her, in that case there is no blame on either of them if they reunite…”
· Wives are sex object in Islam
In Quran sura 2:223 says,” your wives are as a tilth (a field to be ploughed) unto you, so approach your tilth when or how ye will”
· Muslims scholars believe Christianity has all “man-made laws” that forbid divorce except in the case of adultery but brag about Islam and its freedom given to men to divorce their wives
Temporary Marriage of Enjoyment
The goal of temporary marriage [mut’a=marriage of enjoyment] (or better say “legal prostitution”) is to enjoy sexual pleasures in a “legal way”. Originally, this temporary marriage was assigned to Muslims businessmen who had to travel. Since according to Islam they cannot control their sexual desires! They were allowed for a limited period of time to marry a woman. If there are children as a result of this type of marriage, they are without inheritance.
· Muhammad justified temporary marriage for his followers especially in raids (maghazi)
· If a Muslim man mars a Jew or Christian, she dos not inherit from him
· Some Sunni (a sect in Islam) believe this marriage of enjoyment is the same to fornication
· Suni consider the era for temporary marriage is stopped based on Quran sura al-Mu’minun (23:5) which says,”belivers will succeed!…who guard their private parts except with their spouses and whomever their right hands may control, since then they are free from blame.”
· Shiites (a sect in Islam) claim sura al-Mu’minun(23:5) is a Meccan verse and that it has been make known before temporary marriage was allowed
· Many historical facts show that the Shiites interpretations of temporary marriage are credible to Muhammad’s teaching that encouraged his followers to have temporary marriages
· Shiites consider the marriage of enjoyment to a type of a “ legal marriage” when after the “fixed term” is over they can ended the marriage
· Shiites believe the temporary marriage is an established law according to Quran, Hadiths, and their infallible Imams (their religious leaders)
· Shiites refer to what Quran says in sura al-Nisa (4:24,25):
“ and wedded women, save what your right hands own. So God prescribes for you. Lawful for you, beyond all that, is that you may seek, using your wealth, in wedlock and not in licence. Such wives as you enjoy thereby, give them their wages apportionate; it is no fault in you in your agreeing together, after the due apportionate. Allah is All-knowing. All- wise. Any one of you who has not the affluence to be able to marry believing freewomen in wedlock, let him take believing handmaids that your hands own; Allah knows very well your faith; the one of you is as the other. So marry them, with their people’s leave, and give them their wages honourably as women in wedlock, not as in licence or taking lovers. But when they are in wedlock, if they commit indecency, they shall be liable to half the chastisement of freewomen. That provision is for those of you who fear fornication; yet it is better for you to be patient. Allah is All-forgiving All-compassionate”.
the Veil: Iranian Muslim Discovers Christ
A former Iranian Muslim talks about her journey of questioning Islam and finally coming to know Jesus Christ.
CBN.com – "According to Islamic teaching, you cannot execute a virgin girl, so what they do is they rape them, and they call it temporary marriage. That is what happened to my 16-year-old friend -- and they executed her," recounts Ellie Davidian.
Ellie Davidian was horrified by such things as a teenager in Iran. Hers was a devout Muslim culture.Describing what daily rituals were like as a child, Ellie says, "You have to get up so early in the morning, basically before sunrise, to perform the five times prayer: you start in the morning, and then you have noon time, afternoon, and evening. Ritual makes you feel like you are gradually becoming a righteous person because, personally, I was thinking that I did not commit any immoralities. I did all the good works based on the young women growing up in that country, trying to avoid sexual immoralities, alcohol, everything. This religion is based on works; you try to be a good person to please a distant god."When Ellie became a teenager, she began to really question her faith."I wanted to know more about what I was worshipping or whom I was worshipping and all this ritual. I was born near the border of Iran and Iraq. Even the war of Iran and Iraq, I saw so many dead people, so many layers of bodies one after another. At that point, because I was worshipping this distant god or Allah with all my heart, I felt I was betrayed by this god, because I was thinking, If there is a God, then why is he allowing all this to happen?" she says.Ellie couldn't find answers anywhere, so she began to secretly deny Allah in her heart.
Says Ellie, "In Iran after the revolution, we have to cover ourselves with dark, long chadors, long coverings. Of course, in Islamic ritual, when they prepare the bodies to bury them, they have to cover them in the white sheets. Then you see blood everywhere. To me, those are the three colors, basically, that I see in Iran -- black, white, and red."For example, Ellie says that thousands of Iranian children were used to sweep minefields -- and then told they'd be "martyrs" for the cause of Allah.
"There was a hatred growing inside of me against the Iranian government, against Islam," she says, "but still I had that fear of going to hell."
Ellie's parents wanted to help her, so they sent her away from the horrors of war.
"They thought I was going to lose my mind. I was putting all dark dresses on. That was a sign of mourning inside of me," Ellie says. "There was no joy inside of me -- nothing, no life -- so I went to France. It was all colorful and I was seeing freedom. But one thing that was brought to my attention was the churches in France. When entering these places, I would sense some type of peace. I couldn't explain it at that time. I was just sitting in front of those statues of Jesus, lighting the candles in front of statues of Mary, and I was asking this God who I called Allah, 'What do you want to do with my life? What is the purpose?"
Ellie came to America to finish college. There she saw a campus poster for the JESUS film. It was in her native language, Farsi, so she decided to see it.
"Wow! I think these people really changed their Bible," Ellie recalls thinking. "Whatever I was watching through the JESUS movie contradicted with the teaching of Islam about Jesus, so in my mind I was saying, There has to be something wrong. Somebody has to have lied."
Ellie had been taught to deny the deity of Jesus Christ. In fact, she was taught that it was Judas who died on the cross, not Jesus."Judas was a bad boy, so out of God's miracle, it made Judas look like Jesus," Ellie reveals. "Christians are redeemed by the blood of Judas. So atonement, there is no redemption. These are just revolutionary terms when you are talking to a Muslim. That's why they don't have any experience of God's grace."
Then Ellie met some Iranian Christians and started to make a connection. She asked God to show her the truth. That night she had a dream. "I woke up. Even though He did not say, "I am Jesus," He talked to me in English. I knew it was not Mohammed. He said, 'Believe in Me. Why do you have so much doubt in Me? Believe in me.' Inside of me I knew He was Jesus. And for the first time, I was able to see through the veil the reality of Jesus."
Ellie's family didn't see it that way.
"I was the firstborn in my family, and you are supposed to set an example for the rest of your brothers and sisters," Ellie states. "They were loving me. I had a very good relationship -- that is, before my conversion."
They all sensed Ellie's newfound peace, but Islam required that her family disown her. Were her family members curious about this Jesus who brought Ellie real peace?
"For the first time after 14 years, I met them in Istanbul, Turkey, and they were able to hear the Word, the Gospel, the truth," she says. "They were very quiet, of course. I think it is sometimes hard to receive from your children, especially in Middle Eastern culture. That was the first time that they had met my husband, so I let them establish the relationship. I just tried to be a living Word to them because that is what the Muslim observes mostly, to see how you act, how you talk."